Another worthwile snippet from Sex God:
The woman says in Song of Songs, “I am my beloved’s and my beloved is mine.”
She speaks of a paradox. Two things are going on here. She’s giving. Giving herself away. Letting go. Losing herself in her lover. And yet she’s also getting something in return: the other person. Her lover, at the same time, has let go and fallen into her. There is something about losing yourself to another and their losing themselves in you at the same time that defies our ability to categorize. Healthy marriages all have this sense of mutual abandon to each other. They’ve both jumped, in essence, into the arms of the other. There is a sense of mutual abandon between them. If one holds back, if one refrains, it doesn’t work.
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